…..I am in favor of allowing secular gay marriage in the United States but I do not recommend gay marriage because it is not condoned by the Bible. Many secular activities are legal in the United States that the Bible does not condone. I am opposed to forcing people with religious objections to perform any type of services for gay couples at their weddings. The state should not have the power to force conscientious religious objectors to perform actions contrary to their personal beliefs. Priests and Ministers are not forced to marry anyone that is unwilling to comply with their religion. How can you force a Muslim cake decorator to provide service for a gay wedding and do his best at the job? Who decides if the service provided is equal to a non gay wedding and how much the legal fine will be if the service isn’t quite up to snuff.
I wouldn’t marry a man because I don’t have any sexual attraction to men so I’ll never have the chance to plan a gay wedding. Although, a gay man once made a pass at me but he was barking up the wrong tree. I was surprised at the time because I had no clue my friend was gay but I didn’t have any type of harsh response. After all, you really can’t blame him because I am quite the catch so I had to dash his hopes with some consideration. I do consider homosexuality to be a sin but so are coveting, adultery, lying, taking God’s name in vain and many other things. Everyone has sinned so why would I treat him any different than anyone else because I too have sinned.
I think it is unreasonable of any gay couple to pick on a religious cake decorator for the purpose of proving some type of legal point. If I had to get married again I would be more concerned about picking a cake decorator that could get the job done the way I wanted. There are plenty of cake decorators that are willing to decorate a gay cake and there are religions that have no objection to gay marriage. If I wanted to marry a man I would simply pick a cake decorator that I liked and was willing to serve a gay wedding. No one should be forced by the state to do a job that is contrary to their religion just because the state thinks it knows what is best based on a secular philosophy. Any Judge that fines a person for not doing their job because of a sincere religious objection is in the wrong and should be removed from office.
It is not fair to anyone to force religious people to act against their convictions or to force gays to act like they were heterosexuals. What does it prove if you can force a person to do something against their will by threats? Does it make the winner in the conflict feel good that they can inflict their will on the loser? It doesn’t make the loser into a better person and it will simply cause them to get angry and take actions of a negative nature.
Instead of forcing people to act like we want with threats we should try to persuade them by reason or emotion to our point of view for their own benefit. It is better to win a friend to your point of view than create an enemy or a martyr against your cause. The ancient roman empire tried to eradicate Christianity with threats but instead Christianity essentially destroyed the great powerful roman system over a long period of time because it had a message people wanted to hear. Even though ancient Rome had all kinds of legal homosexuality the Apostle Paul was still a Roman citizen and appealed to Caesar with his legal case. I have never read that the Apostle Paul tried to prevent legal Roman non-Christian homosexual relationships. The cross used to be a threatening symbol of roman authority but now it is a powerful symbol of Christianity and the empire of Rome is just a distant memory.
The Bible does not promote homosexual behavior and any Church that does is not Biblical in nature. It is unacceptable to force a Bible based Church to marry two people of the same sex just as it is unfair to force anyone to attend a particular Church. There are plenty of religions and secular businesses that will marry two people of the same sex and bake their wedding cake so why can’t gays choose these options instead of trying to destroy the financial lives of people who don’t share their belief system by using the court system?
It is not possible to force Christian business owners to love gays more by ruining their business and in the long run gays are hurting their own agenda by trying to make criminal examples of Christians and others that do not want to bake their cakes. Personally if I had the skill to bake a cake I would make one for anyone that paid me enough money even if I disagreed with the philosophy behind the cake decorations but that’s just the way God made me. Although, I would probably charge unreasonably extra for a Nazi or KKK cake. If cake bakers must bake a cake for a gay couple does that mean they would be legally forced to bake a cake for the Nazi party? All people should be free to chose who they work for and what they believe without being threatened unfairly by the law.
By the way, the man who thought I was gay and made the pass at me married a woman a few years later. I know the couple has at least one child and they seemed quite happy last time I talked to them eons ago. I hope they have also put their trust in Christ which I believe is the only answer to any type of sin. Sin can not be cured by government edicts and governments should not be in the business of telling anyone what type of cakes they need to bake.